I Love You, Let’s Meet

Well, the break has already begun as alert or even not-alert readers will have noticed. It feels odd having a blog and just drifting off and posting less and less, so I’m making it official. I shan’t be posting again (unless something earth-shattering in the world of Internet dating happens and I feel like blogging). I’m working on shifting virginiavitzthum.com into a straight-up author website.

(Wait, did I just do non-closure closure like all those Internet dates who drive us nuts by not just cleanly ending it? I think I did!)

So long! Thanks Kenneth and Steve and the other commenters who made blogging more fun than I expected it to be. And of course, thanks to Alberto the mastermind and not-evil genius.

Love,
Virginia

and there’s also a point here about male dating columnists telling women that rude behavior is “natural,” so guys can’t help it. It tends to feel more like excusing or special pleading than explaining or arbitrating.

Online dating in Ghana is a web of deceit. Daniel Pryce decodes some ads for us and corrects some spelling. (Double dang, nay, triple dang that he gives no link to his article on “the third leg”!)

Pretty funny account of a scam. The “hold a sign with my name” test is clever — unless the Pho-mancers have Pho-toshop.

rather commonsense advice (which characterizes the whole dating-advice industry. And the diet-book industry, too: How do books keep getting into the bestseller list that are simply riffs on Eat less, Move more?) from e-harmony. If a person acts like a big jerk, don’t marry him/her. Thanks, Dr. Warren.

But check out the picture, doesn’t it look like a metal rod is slipping out of her head? Or else some robot worm is drilling into her brain and causing her rather languid road rage?

I am loving a song called You Broke My Heart by a group called Lavender Diamond right now.

It’s kind of sad and low-self-esteemy that both Matthew Perry and Charlie Sheen are using sites for rich guys. They surely have other things to offer a lady; they’re not just rich. They’re, hmm, let’s see, oh yeah, they’re famous!

Other celebs who supposedly online date: Joan Rivers, Joan Osborne (that’s the headline joke), Joan Baez (not really, just trying to keep the Joan thing going), the lead singer from Soul Coughing Mike Doughty, and Alec Baldwin.

Oh wah, wah, wah, poor doctors don’t like patients talking about them online. Well, tough! The power relationship is so unbalanced compared to dating — we (people who are sick) give them (doctors) lots of money and are completely vulnerable to them. We could get a second opinion, if we want to spend even more money and hear even more conflicting, scary stuff.

I think online doctor accountability is a great idea. Part of why health care is so unfixable incrementally is because it refuses to behave like a market, one of the problems being it’s not so easy to comparison shop and just take your business elsewhere if you’re dissatisfied. True Canadian-style single-payer health care is the only way to go. As long as the insurance companies are involved, it’ll never get fixed.

What happened to Hillary Clinton in the early 90s wasn’t her fault, the insurance companies would have crushed anyone. Neither she nor Obama could/would/will make any meaningful improvement to health care as President.

OK, end of off-topic rant by dating-maven-slash-underinsured-pinko-freelancer.

This is hilarious and rings true to me (pounding away endlessly, even to an awesome Led Zep album, is cli-i-i-mb-ing a sta-air-way to Yeast Infection).

Speaking of Australia, I’m reading Peter Carey’s His Illegal Self, a strange and beautiful book about a young son of SDS leaders being kidnapped away from his Park Avenue grandmother and dragged to Australia (Carey’s an Aussie).

topicality reach for random Web thing I love, uh, if I found out my upcoming online date made this video I would be psyched.

Genius! Thanks Pat!

Oh yeah, not safe for work with the sound up, kinda potty-mouthed.

the business-love analogy is depressing enough, and then one of the business guys uses the “whites of their eyes” to describe the advantage of speed-investing. As in “don’t shoot til you see the whites of their eyes.” Nice.