Comments on: haunt the sites, but before midnight http://virginiavitzthum.com/ilylm/2008/01/06/haunt-the-sites-but-before-midnight/ Adventures in Online Dating Mon, 20 Jul 2009 01:06:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Steve http://virginiavitzthum.com/ilylm/2008/01/06/haunt-the-sites-but-before-midnight/comment-page-1/#comment-725 Steve Fri, 11 Jan 2008 15:12:40 +0000 http://virginiavitzthum.com/ilylm/2008/01/06/haunt-the-sites-but-before-midnight/#comment-725 Meeting new friends as well as potential dates in real life, despite having to leave your apartment and endure some nerves from social jitters seems so much more friendly. Picking up my dry cleaning, showering and shaving seems so much more simple than making a "creating a persona" or fudging who I am to not get filtered out. Likewise, within in the first few moments of meeting someone I know what s/he truly looks like, and more importantly how they come off. No ancient pictures, no fudged statistics and no fabricated personalities( at least as much as is possible with an online persona ). Best of all, that person is likely to be local. Here is to doing some things the old fashioned way, with grown ups. Meeting new friends as well as potential dates in real life, despite having to leave your apartment and endure some nerves from social jitters seems so much more friendly.

Picking up my dry cleaning, showering and shaving seems so much more simple than making a “creating a persona” or fudging who I am to not get filtered out.

Likewise, within in the first few moments of meeting someone I know what s/he truly looks like, and more importantly how they come off. No ancient pictures, no fudged statistics and no fabricated personalities( at least as much as is possible with an online persona ).

Best of all, that person is likely to be local.

Here is to doing some things the old fashioned way, with grown ups.

]]> By: kmcleod http://virginiavitzthum.com/ilylm/2008/01/06/haunt-the-sites-but-before-midnight/comment-page-1/#comment-721 kmcleod Mon, 07 Jan 2008 17:16:15 +0000 http://virginiavitzthum.com/ilylm/2008/01/06/haunt-the-sites-but-before-midnight/#comment-721 "...improving one’s standing by linking to high status friends; using a screen name like “Batman” or “007” when in reality one is more like Austin Powers; referring to one’s gleaming head as “shaved” not “bald”; using cutesy emoticons to charm the demographic that forwards inspirational chain mail; demonstrating leadership by being the first to adopt and turn others onto the latest Facebook applications; listing one’s almost-career as a D.J. or model rather than the one that pays the bills; making calculated decisions about what to list as interests or favorite books." That sounds kind of sad when put all into one paragraph like that. "Today, posting revealing or culpable material online arguably has become another forum for signaling imperviousness to danger and repercussions...They may be indicating that their future is so secure that no social network site indiscretion would jeopardize it, or they may be showing their alienation from the sort of future where discretion is needed." That is hopeful. “…improving one’s standing by linking to high status friends; using a screen name like “Batman” or “007” when in reality one is more like Austin Powers; referring to one’s gleaming head as “shaved” not “bald”; using cutesy emoticons to charm the demographic that forwards inspirational chain mail; demonstrating leadership by being the first to adopt and turn others onto the latest Facebook applications; listing one’s almost-career as a D.J. or model rather than the one that pays the bills; making calculated decisions about what to list as interests or favorite books.”

That sounds kind of sad when put all into one paragraph like that.

“Today, posting revealing or culpable material online arguably has become another forum for signaling imperviousness to danger and repercussions…They may be indicating that their future is so secure that no social network site indiscretion would jeopardize it, or they may be showing their alienation from the sort of future where discretion is needed.”

That is hopeful.

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